5 mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no nā mea paʻi kiʻi e kiʻi i nā kiʻi me ko lākou ʻohana

I ka lōʻihi o ka manawa ma waena o ka manawa mua i kiʻi ai wau i kahi kāmela a i kēia lā, ua lawe wau i mau haneli mau kaukani kiʻi. I koʻu wā liʻiliʻi, kiʻi wau i nā kiʻi o koʻu mau hoahānau i nā hui ʻohana. I koʻu wā makua, ua kiʻi wau i nā paʻi kiʻi o kaʻu mau hoaaloha i ke kula, kuʻu ipo kāne (kāne i kēia manawa) e pāʻani ana i ka pā pōhaku, a me kaʻu ʻīlio aloha, ʻo Brady. I ka manawa i hele mai ai kaʻu mau keikikāne ʻelua, ua kī ʻia ka helu o nā kiʻi i kaʻu hōʻiliʻili i nā pakuhi, a i ka wā i hoʻomaka ai wau i kaʻu ʻoihana paʻi kiʻi, ua hoʻohui wau he mau kaukani kiʻi o kaʻu mea kūʻai aku.

ʻIke ʻoe i ka mea e nalo ana mai kaʻu hōʻiliʻili? ʻO wau.

Ma kahi o ʻelua mau makahiki aku nei i hala, ua pepehi ʻia kuʻu hoaaloha i ka wā e hele ana i kahi kakahiaka kakahiaka. I koʻu noho ʻana i kona hoʻolewa a me ka nānā ʻana i kahi hōʻike o kona ola, ua loʻohia wau i ka ʻike ʻana i nā kiʻi āna i waiho ai ma hope he waiwai waiwai nui ʻole ia e waiwai mau ai kāna mau keiki, ʻohana, a me nā hoa aloha.

A laila, i ʻOkakopa 2013, Ua kākau ʻo Jodi Friedman i kahi pou pilikino e pili ana i ke kiʻi ʻia. A hiki i kēia lā, kū mau kēlā pou ma kaʻu punahele mai kēia blog, a he mana nui kona i ka nānā ʻana iaʻu iho a me koʻu ʻano e pili ana i nā kiʻi.

E noʻonoʻo ana wau e pili ana i ka make o kuʻu hoaaloha a me nā kiʻi āna i waiho ai no kāna mau keiki, a ua ʻike wau he mea pono iaʻu e haʻalele i ka waiho ʻana i kaʻu mau insecurities ponoʻī e mālama iaʻu ma hope o ke kāmera a me nā kiʻi ʻole, no ka mea o kaʻu mea i aloha ai-ʻo kaʻu keiki. Eia naʻe, ua luhi loa kaʻu mau hoʻāʻo ʻana i ke kiʻi ʻana i nā kiʻi me ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka uaki manawa ma kaʻu pahupaʻiwikiō.

Ma kā mākou huakaʻi i Jekyll Island, Keokia, i ke kauwela i hala, ua hoʻoholo wau e kiʻi wau i kā mākou ʻohana ponoʻī kiʻi ma kahakai e hoʻohana ana i kēlā ʻano.

Ma kahi o nā kiʻi kupaianaha aʻu i manaʻo ai, ʻo kēia ka mea maikaʻi loa i hiki iaʻu ke hana.

A ʻoiai ke kiʻi nei kēia kiʻi i ka hoʻomanaʻo o kēlā manawa hoʻokahi aʻu i hele a mae loa i ka lole a ke holo nei i mua a ma waena o kaʻu pahu paʻi kiʻi a me ʻekolu mau kāne hoʻohoka nui, ʻaʻole ia ke kiʻi nani aʻu e makemake ai e kau ma koʻu paia. .

ʻO ka wikiwiki i kēia makahiki…

I kēia makahiki, i ka wā a mākou i hoʻolālā ai i ko mākou wā hoʻomaha i ka mokupuni ʻo Jekyll, ua hoʻolālā wau i kahi hālāwai paʻi kiʻi me kahi mea paʻi kiʻi kūloko ma laila. No ka manawa mua mai ka hoʻolana ʻana i kaʻu ʻoihana kiʻi ponoʻī, he mea kūʻai kiʻi wau. Ma waho aʻe o nā kiʻi o kaʻu mau keiki e pāʻani ana ma kahakai aʻu i lawe ai iaʻu iho, i kēia makahiki ua loaʻa iaʻu nā kiʻi kupaianaha o koʻu ʻohana holoʻokoʻa.

Ma ke ʻano he hopena maikaʻi loa i mua o ke kāmela no kahi loli, aia kekahi mau haʻawina aʻu i aʻo ai e makemake wau e kaʻana like. Eia kekahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e kōkua iā ʻoe e kiʻi i nā kiʻi a aloha aku iā lākou.

1. Hoʻolimalima i kahi mea paʻi kiʻi

ʻO koʻu ʻike i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e kiʻi i nā kiʻi kahakai o kaʻu ʻohana iho i ka wā kauwela i luhi a hoʻonāukiuki hoʻi. Hauʻoli wau i ka nui o kaʻu mau kiʻi paʻi o kaʻu kāne a me kaʻu mau keiki e hoʻoili ai i kaʻu mau keiki kāne i kekahi lā, akā makemake wau e hoʻomanaʻo lākou i ka leʻaleʻa o ka lewa i koʻu lauoho a me ke ala e ʻānai iki ai kuʻu ihu ke ʻAkaʻaka wau. ʻO ka mea nui loa, makemake au e loaʻa iā lākou nā kiʻi paʻi kiʻi o koʻu aloha no lākou e hoʻomanaʻo iā lākou ma hope lōʻihi o koʻu hele ʻana. Makemake au e ʻike kaʻu mau moʻopuna i kaʻu aloha no ko lākou mau mākua a me ko lākou kupuna kāne.

Ma hope o ke kāmela e mālama mau ana i kēlā. ʻOiai aia he mau tone o nā mea paʻi kiʻi i mākaukau i ke akamai o ka iho a i ʻole ka hoʻokuʻu shutter mamao, ʻaʻole wau kekahi o kēlā mau mea paʻi kiʻi. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe kekahi, e mālama iā ʻoe iho i ke koʻikoʻi a me ka luhi a hoʻolimalima i kahi mea paʻi kiʻi e kiʻi i kēlā mau mea nāu.

2. Hana kou Research

I ka wā i hoʻomaka ai wau e hoʻāʻo e loaʻa i kahi mea paʻi kiʻi ma ka moku ʻo Jekyll Island, ua ʻike wau makemake wau i mea paʻi kiʻi ola; akā naʻe, ʻaʻole nui o ka ʻimi ʻana i huli i ka "kūpono". Ua loaʻa iaʻu he tone o nā mea paʻi kiʻi male, he mau mea paʻi kiʻi paʻi kiʻi maʻamau, a me kekahi mau mea paʻi kiʻi ʻohana, akā ʻaʻohe o kā lākou kiʻi paʻi e like me kaʻu e ʻimi nei. No laila, ʻaʻole wau i hoʻolimalima i kekahi. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ua hoʻoholo wau ʻaʻole e kiʻi i nā kiʻi i ka wā hoʻomaha a hoʻomaka wau e noiʻi i nā mea paʻi kiʻi kūloko. A laila, ma ke ake o kekahi lā, ua ʻimi hou wau i nā mea paʻi kiʻi ola ma ka moku ʻo Jekyll Island. I kēia manawa, ʻo ka hopena mua loa o kaʻu ʻimi he mea paʻi kiʻi ʻo Jennifer Tacbas ka inoa. Ua nānā au i kāna pūnaewele a aloha.

Huli kēia piggy-back "Hire a Photographer." Mai hoʻolimalima i kahi mea paʻi kiʻi wale nō. E hana i kāu noiʻi a hoʻolimalima i ka mea paʻi kiʻi nāna kāu hana e hoʻohui pū me ka mea nui. Inā hoʻoholo ʻoe e hoʻolimalima i kahi ʻoihana e hana i nā kiʻi nāu, mai hoʻolimalima i kekahi a ʻike ʻoe i ka mea paʻi kiʻi e kūlike i ke kaila āu e makemake ai no kāu mau kiʻi. ʻAʻole wau makemake i nā kiʻi kūpono. Makemake au i ka mea paʻi kiʻi ola. Ma kahi o ka hoʻolimalima ʻana i kekahi mai nā koho i loaʻa, kali au a ʻike wau i ka mea ʻoi loa o ka mea i loaʻa noʻu iho.

3. E kamaʻilio

I loko o kaʻu leka uila mua iā Jennifer, ua hōʻike wau iā ia ʻo kaʻu keiki muli loa, ʻo Finley, he autistic. Ua makemake wau e ʻike ʻo ia i ka nānā ʻana a me nā ʻano maka like ʻole e hiki ʻole ai, keu hoʻi i kahi ʻano hou e like me kaʻu i ʻike ai i kahi wahi i ka wā hoʻomaha. Ma loko o kā mākou kamaʻilio ʻana aʻe, ua hoʻokūpaʻa wau i ka manaʻo ʻo nā kiʻi "hemolele" me nā poʻe āpau e minoʻaka ana i ke kāmela he mea nui iaʻu. Makemake au i nā kiʻi maoli i hōʻike i kā mākou hana pū ʻana ma ke ʻano he ʻohana, ka mea aʻu i ʻike ai e kiʻi ʻia ana ʻo Jennifer ma hope o ka nānā ʻana i kāna hana. Makemake pū kekahi au e hoʻoliʻiliʻi ʻia kāna pae koʻikoʻi. Makemake wau e hauʻoli pū ʻo ia i kā mākou kau ʻana, a ʻaʻole wau i makemake iā ia e makaʻu e hoʻohoka wau inā ʻaʻole kū ʻia kahi kiʻi “hemolele”. Kūpono mau nā kiʻi i loaʻa, ma nā ʻano a pau—he wehewehe ʻokoʻa wale nō o ka huaʻōlelo.

E hoʻomaopopo pono i kāu mea paʻi kiʻi i nā pilikia e nui iā ʻoe. Loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi keiki hopohopo a puni nā malihini? Pehea e pili ana i ka palekana pilikino, e like me ka inaina i kou ihu a i ʻole ʻakaʻaka? A i ʻole he pilikia e like me kaʻu? E hoʻomaopopo i kāu mea paʻi kiʻi ma mua. Ma ka hana ʻana pēlā, hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻoia i ka ʻike o kāu mea paʻi kiʻi e hana ai i kāu kau ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.

4. E hauʻoli!

Ma kahi o ka hoʻopau ʻana i kā mākou kau kau a luhi hoʻi mai ka holo ʻana i mua a hoʻi i kaʻu pahu paʻi kiʻi, ua hoʻopau wau i kā mākou kau ʻana a luʻuluʻu hoʻi mai ka leʻaleʻa nui ʻana me koʻu ʻohana. Pāʻani mākou i ke one, kaʻapuni a puni i nā pōʻai, a loaʻa nā hakakā tickle. Ua mākaʻikaʻi mākou i ke kahakai ʻo Driftwood a me nā kahua o ka Jekyll Island Club Hotel, hāʻawi i nā honi ihu, a alualu i nā pāpaʻi. I ka pōkole, ua pā mākou.

Inā koho ʻoe e hoʻolimalima i kahi mea paʻi kiʻi, kahi kumu nui e hana ai pēlā e hoʻopakele iā ʻoe iho mai ka manaʻo kaumaha. He aha kēlā manaʻo? Mai koʻikoʻi. I leʻaleʻa kāu. ʻAʻole wale ia e hana i nā kiʻi paʻi e hōʻike i nā pilina maoli, akā hiki iā ia ke kōkua i nā lālā o kou ʻohana i hauʻoli ʻole e pili ana i ka kiʻi ʻana o nā kiʻi ʻohana e like me ʻoe.

5. Aloha i kāu mau kiʻi

ʻO ka poʻe aloha iaʻu ʻike hiki iaʻu ke lilo i mea koʻikoʻi loa i koʻu helehelena ponoʻī, ʻo ia kekahi o nā kumu e hauʻoli pinepine ai wau ma hope o ka maka aniani ma mua o kāna. Eia naʻe, ʻO Jodi Friedman post e pili ana i kona ʻike i kāna mau kiʻi ponoʻī ʻia he mea wehe maka naʻu, no laila ma mua o ka nānā ʻana i nā kiʻi mai kā mākou kau, ua hoʻoholo wau e aloha i ke ʻano o koʻu nānā ʻana iā lākou. A hana wau. No ka mea, ʻo ka mea nui, ʻaʻole mālama kaʻu mau keiki i kaʻu mau lima aloha. ʻAʻole lākou e ʻike inā he kuʻina pāpālua a i ʻole ka helehelena goofy i koʻu alo i kahi kiʻi. ʻAʻole pono iaʻu kekahi. ʻAʻohe aʻu kiʻi i kiʻi ʻia no nā hoaaloha ma ka pāpaho (a i ʻole nā ​​mea heluhelu o kēia wahi) e hōʻino paha i koʻu helehelena. ʻO ka mea hope loa, he mau kiʻi kaʻu i kiʻi ʻia no kaʻu mau keikikāne, ʻo Gavin lāua ʻo Finley. No laila, ʻo kā Gavin a me Finley mau manaʻo wale nō ka mea nui iaʻu.

Inā aloha ʻoe a inaina ʻole paha i kou helehelena, hoʻoholo i ke aloha i nā kiʻi e mālama ai ʻo wai ʻoe. Heluhelu ʻO Jodi's post, inā ʻoe e pono i ka hoʻoulu like e hiki ai iaʻu ke hana pēlā.

ʻO koʻu ʻike ma ke alo o ke kāmela ma ke ʻano he mea kūʻai kiʻi paʻi hāʻawi iaʻu me nā mea hoʻomanaʻo koʻikoʻi, nā kiʻi nani e kau ʻia nei ma koʻu paia, a me kahi kuanaʻike hou ma ke ʻano he mea paʻi kiʻi. Ua mālama kā mākou mea paʻi kiʻi iā mākou me ka ʻoluʻolu, ahonui, a me ka ʻoihana a hiki iaʻu ke lana wale koʻu manaʻo i kaʻu mau mea kūʻai aku e like me kāna i hōʻike mai ai iā mākou, i ka wā o ke kau a i kēlā me kēia manawa ke nānā aku mākou i kāna hana nani.

E hele ma hope o ke kāmela no kahi loli. Inā hana ia no ka hoʻolimalima ʻana i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe, hoʻolimalima i kekahi nāna kāu hana āu e aloha ai. E kamaʻilio i kāu mau mea i manaʻo ai, e leʻaleʻa i kāu kau, a aloha iā ʻoe iho a me nā kiʻi āu i loko.

E hauʻoli kāu poʻe aloha iā ʻoe.

ʻO nā kiʻi na Jennifer Tacbas i hui pū me ka ʻae a ka mea paʻi kiʻi.

Lindsay Williams Noho ʻo ia ma ka hema-waena o Kentucky me kāna kāne, ʻo David, a me kā lāua mau keikikāne ʻelua, ʻo Gavin lāua ʻo Finley. Ke aʻo ʻole ʻo ia i ka ʻōlelo Pelekania kula kiʻekiʻe a hoʻolilo manawa paha me kona ʻohana, nona a hoʻohana ʻo Lindsay Williams Photography, ka mea loea i ka paʻi kiʻi ola. Hiki iā ʻoe ke nānā i kāna hana ma kāna pūnaewele. Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i nā hana hou aʻe na Jennifer Tacbas ma Pūnaewele ʻo Jennifer.