Nā Ala Surefire e hoʻohana ai i kāu lawelawe lawelawe e hoʻonui ai i ka ʻike o kāu mea kūʻai aku

Ke hoʻonui nei i ka ʻike o kāu mea kūʻai aku na Shuva Rahim

ʻO ka lawelawe mea kūʻai aku kahi mea aʻu e noʻonoʻo nei e pili ana i nā mea hou aku nei. Ma muli paha o ka hoʻololi nui ʻana i kaʻu hana ʻana i nā mea mai ka hoʻomaka ʻana o kaʻu ʻoihana, a i ʻole no ka loaʻa paha iā mākou āpau nā hana weliweli me nā ʻoihana i kā mākou kaiāulu. ʻAneʻane like ia me ka paepae no ka haʻahaʻa o ka lawelawe mea kūʻai aku, e noʻonoʻo mākou i kahi mahalo a me ka minoʻaka maikaʻi.

ʻĀ, ʻaʻole ia. - ʻaʻole inā makemake ʻoe i nā poʻe e kamaʻilio e pili ana iā ʻoe, e hana e pili ana iā ʻoe, a hoʻi mai iā ʻoe.

ʻO wau ka mea mua e ʻae i ka hiki ke ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka mākau pili pili, a ke ʻimi mau nei wau e hoʻomaikaʻi. Akā i loko o ke kiʻi paʻi kiʻi, ʻoiai ka hapa nui o kā mākou ʻoihana e pili ana i nā pilina ʻaʻole lawa pono ka "awelika".

No ka mea nui wau i nā papa inoa, eia kekahi mau mea e noʻonoʻo ai e hana ana ke hui ʻoe me nā mea kūʻai aku a i ʻole nā ​​mea kūʻai aku e hiki mai ana.

1. E kamaʻilio. E kamaʻilio. E kamaʻilio. ʻO ia ke kamaʻilio ʻana i kāu mea kūʻai aku - i ke kanaka, inā hiki - a i ʻole kelepona. Aia ka makaʻu mau no ka huikau a i ʻole kuhi hewa inā i kēlā me kēia hiʻohiʻona o kāu kamaʻilio ʻana ma o ka leka uila.
2. Manaʻo i kā lākou nīnau. E wehewehe iā lākou i kāu kaʻina hana me kāu kau, nā pūʻolo, nā mea ʻē aʻe - i mua. Inā ua hoʻopaʻa lākou iā ʻoe, mai leka uila iā lākou i kāu papa inoa kumukūʻai a manaʻo iā lākou e heluhelu a hoʻomaopopo i nā mea āpau. ʻOiai inā kākau maopopo ʻia ia, e hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa e hele ai i kāu ʻike i ʻike ʻoe he maopopo maopopo kā lākou no ka mea i hāʻawi ʻia. A laila hele hou e hoʻomaha hou i ko lākou hoʻomanaʻo.
3. E nīnau i kā lākou makemake. ʻAʻole makemake paha kahi kupuna wahine i nā kiʻi ma ka pāhaʻi, a ʻaʻole paha makemake nā ʻelemakule o ke kula kiʻekiʻe i nā paʻi paʻi, a i ʻole ka hope. E ʻike mai kāu mea kūʻai aku i ka mea nui iā lākou.
4. Hele i waho o ka mea i manaʻo ʻia. E uku i kāu mau mea kūʻai aku, inā paha ma ke ʻano o nā keu keu, kahi palapala paʻi, kahi palapala hāʻawi a i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe.
5. E ʻōlelo mahalo - ʻaʻole wale ma ka hopena, akā ma hope pū kekahi o kela wahi pili.

ʻO Shuva Rahim kahi mea paʻi kiʻi ma Iowa Hikina. Hauʻoli ʻo ia i ka heluhelu ʻana i nā puke e hoʻomaikaʻi ai i kāna ʻoihana, ʻelua o ia mau mea me "The Power of Nice" na Linda Kapler Thaler lāua ʻo Robin Koval, a me "The Invisible Touch" na Harry Beckwith.