Ukuthwebula imifanekiso emihle yabantwana bakowenu

Ukuthwebula imifanekiso emihle yabantwana bakowenu

Ndihlala ndicinga ukuba ukufota umntwana omnye kuphela kulula njengepayi, kodwa ukuba xa usongeza kubantakwenu, kuya kusiba nzima. Xa ndifota abantakwethu, konke kungokubonisa unxibelelwano phakathi kwabo, kunye nokuzama ukuqinisekisa ukuba wonke umntu uyonwaba kwinkqubo. Iihenjisi ezininzi kubudala nakwimeko yabantwana, kodwa kunjalo nangaliphi na ixesha ufota abantwana.

Xa ubhukisha iseshoni yakho okanye ukuba unayo indibano yangaphambi kweseshoni, soloko uqinisekisa ukuba ubuza abazali imibuzo ethile malunga nabantwana babo - ngaba bahlala njani, badlala kunye, bazobamba izandla, ukuba umntwana mncinci-- Ngaba omncinci uza kuvumela umntakwabo / umntakwabo omdala ukuba amlande-ngokusisiseko, nawuphi na umbuzo malunga nobudlelwane babo kunye nayo nayiphi na into eya kunceda ukuba umntwana akhululeke ngakumbi kuwe. Ungaze woyike okanye utyhafe ukuba ekuqaleni abantakwenu ababonakali ngathi bafuna ukuba kunye. Kulapho ke ubuchule bakho bokudlala buza kudlala- yiba sisidenge, dlala umdlalo, ufumane indawo kwindawo yakho abangakwaziyo ukumelana nokunyuka, okanye bemi kuyo, bayeke bakhwaze amagama ahlekisayo kwaye bonwabe kwaye baphumle kwindalo esingqongileyo. Kananjalo abantwana baya kuziva ukuba unovalo nabo, ke ngoko zama konke okusemandleni akho ukuba uzive ukhululekile ngexesha leseshoni yakho. Njengomama wabantwana abathathu, ukusukela kwiminyaka eli-10 ukuya kweli-2, ndikhululekile phakathi kwabantwana kwiiseshoni zam, ndihlala ndibabambe izandla ukuwela isitalato, okanye ndibachola ukuze “ndibaphakamisele” ezingalweni zikadade wabo ukuze benze iposi.

Kuba ndifuna ukubamba iqhina phakathi kwabantakwethu, ndihlala ndifuna ukuba abantwana basondelelane kakhulu. Oku kunokuba yinto yendalo kunye nabantakwenu, kodwa hayi kwabanye. Ngamanye amaxesha ndiqala ukuma ngxi, njengokubambana ngezandla, emva koko ndithi, "nye, zimbini, zithathu - yangana!" - okanye enye into ukubenza basondelelane. Ngokwenyani ndinosapho olunye nomntakwethu nodade wethu, endandimfota iminyaka. Ngoku, bayandibuza ukuba bangalala na. Ndihlala ndicela umntakwethu omdala ukuba athathe umntwana omncinci- abanakukunceda kodwa basondele kwaye bonwabe-ngamanye amaxesha bawe phantsi. Uninzi lwam olona shoti lubalaseleyo kuxa ndicela abantwana ukuba benze indlela ethile, emva koko baphume ngokwabo kuloo ndawo kwaye bahleke okanye benze into engenangqondo. Ndingabacela ukuba babambe izandla bahambe, emva kwemizuzwana engama-30, ndiye ndibaleke! Njengomzali, ufuna ngaphezulu kwayo nantoni na ukubona abantwana bakho bonwabile kunye, yiyo loo nto ndizama ukubamba amaxesha okuzenzekelayo phakathi kwabantakwenu avele nje yonke imihla.

Ngabantwana abancinci, i-4 nangaphantsi, kuhlala kunzima ukubenza bahlale kunye ngaphandle. Ke, ndihlala ndizama ukufumana into eya kuzinzisa -izitepsi, isitulo, ucingo. Banokuyifumana indawo inomdla ngokwaneleyo ukuba bangahlala apho umzuzu, ixesha elaneleyo ukuba badutyulwe bobabini. Umzekelo, kwifoto yamakhwenkwe angamawele elunxwemeni, bebekwiindlela ezahlukeneyo umzuzu iinyawo zabo zibetha esantini. Nje ukuba sibayeke bakhwele kwizinyuko okwemizuzu embalwa, babekulungele ukuhlala kunye - kwaye emva koko bayawola kwaye bahleke kwaye bonwabe. Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana abancinci bafuna inkululeko yokufumana amandla ngaphambi kokuba bahlale bethe cwaka kwaye bafotwe. Amaxesha amaninzi, abantwana abancinci bafuna ikhefu ukubaleka kwaye emva koko, baya kubuya bafote, ke yabela ixesha loku.

Ezinye izimvo zokugcina abantwana behlangene - babambe izandla kwaye bajikeleze, babeke phantsi emhlabeni kunye, ndihlala ndisebenzisa igama elithi "snuggle" kwaye bayakwenza! Ungabacela ukuba banike omnye ukukhwela ihagu, ukubanga, okanye ukubanga, okanye ubacele ukuba bahlebe into ethe cwaka kubantakwabo. Banokuphakelana (jonga ukuba ngubani onamandla!), Babe nentwana encinci yokubeka isisu phezu kwesisu ngaphezulu komntakwenu osele ekhulile ukuze bempumlo empumlweni okanye esidleleni esidleleni- kumalunga nokonwaba nokuvumela abantwana yonwaba. Ingcebiso enkulu, ukuba abantwana banoluvo lwento abafuna ukuyenza, mabazame- inokuphela ibe ngumzuzu okhethekileyo.

Ekugqibeleni, ukuba uyabavumela abantwana badlale kwaye bonwabe, uya kuba nakho ukubamba amaxesha abo amnandi kunye. Khululeka kwaye ungakhathazeki ukuba abajonganga ngqo kwikhamera- kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuba bajongane kwaye benze inkumbulo eya kuhlala ixesha elide njengomfanekiso owufumanayo.

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